In your role as a family caregiver, you would like to think that you would have the support, encouragement, and love of everyone around you, from your friends to your siblings. Fulfilling the homecare tasks of an elderly adult can be extremely stressful, and you want to know that there are people who are there for you to help you manage this challenge in the way that is right for you. Unfortunately this is not always the case. You might find that there are people in your life who would rather criticize you than show you the support that you need.
When this happens it can cause a tremendous amount of stress, putting not just your homecare efforts, but also your health and well-being at risk. Coping with this criticism effectively is essential to ensuring that you are the highest quality caregiver possible for your senior while also protecting your own health and wellness.
Use these tips to help you cope with criticism from others about your homecare decisions:
• Consider them briefly. Being critical might not be the best way to express it, but when one of your friends or family members criticizes something that you have done for your aging parent it might genuinely be coming from a place of care and love for your senior. Take some time to consider this and determine if there may be any relevance to the issue so that you can make any necessary changes with confidence.
• Talk about the criticism. Particularly if the criticism is not coming directly to you but through another person, it is important that you confront this criticism. Talk to the person who is being critical and find out exactly what they think. You might find that how the other person relayed the criticism is inaccurate and that they were not as critical as you might have thought. This gives you the opportunity to talk about your care efforts with someone and gain potentially valuable insight.
• Encourage them to come along with you. It is very easy for people to criticize efforts that they do not fully understand. They might think that you are not doing a good enough job or that what you are doing is not enough, but not realize what you actually go through. Encourage them to come along with you when you are caring for your parent so that they can see what you actually handle on a daily basis. They will likely find that you are doing far better than they think that you are, and that their perceptions of what their care “should” be is not feasible.
• Consider homecare services. If you feel that you are receiving too many comments about your care and that you simply cannot fulfill your parent’s care needs in the way that they deserve, now may be the ideal time for you to consider homecare for them. An in-home senior care services provider can fill care gaps, provide personalized care, and ensure that your loved one has everything that they need at all times. This allows you to step back and focus more on your relationship with your parent as well as the other tasks and obligations of your life.