Asking for help should not be such a source of embarrassment but many people feel this way. When it comes to seniors that struggle with doing basic daily tasks like dressing and bathing, they may feel even more embarrassed. Family members need to help their elderly parent come to terms with their declining abilities and accept home care services in their home.
Of course, convincing an aging parent that they are risking their health and wellness by refusing help usually doesn’t go over well. Seniors often feel defensive about their age-related struggles and refuse help. Many times, elderly adults are reluctant to show signs of weakness or that they can’t handle the daily tasks required to stay healthy and safe. They may be afraid that well-meaning family members will automatically put them in a retirement center if they admit they experience problems. All family caregivers can do is to start discussions with stubborn seniors about home care services.
The first thing that family caregivers need to do is actually listen to what they are saying. Often, family members think they know best and discount any perspective from the elderly person. When family members really listen to what is bothering the aging adult when it comes to home care, they can come to an understanding. For example, an elderly person may be really worried about different strangers coming in the house. To resolve concerns, a family member may want to involve their elderly relative in choosing the senior care assistants that will come.
Another approach that worried family members can take is starting very slowly with outside help. Perhaps the first step is hiring a cleaning person to come in a few times per month. Most seniors see this as a luxury and are not usually opposed to it. Then, they can add in meal prep services and slowly increase those. Over time, the elderly adults realize the benefits of outside home care assistance and will usually feel more comfortable as the services increase.
Finally, family members can appeal to other authority figures in their elderly loved one’s life. When respected people like doctors, nurses, clergy, friends, siblings and senior home care officials all recommend in-home senior care, some elderly adults pay attention. Family caregivers will be supported in their efforts to find a proper home care agency to work with.
Nobody wants to admit that age is causing them to lose the ability to care for themselves. It can be frightening and frustrating for seniors to ask for or accept outside help. However, for their own health and safety, many seniors really do need in-home care. It’s up to family caregivers to figure out the best method of convincing their aging parents that quality care will only help them live better lives, ot hinder them.